Anti Bullying Week

Today I’m passing my blog over to my Daughter Lucie who as a teenager gets to see different forms of bullying between her peers everyday and is therefore more qualified to talk about this subject than I am.

If I am honest everyone will get bullied at least once in their life, and its something that we can all relate to. I myself have certainly been bullied in the past and it is an absolutely horrible experience to go through. But in  a way it has made me a stronger person for it.

There are so many different types of bullying, but at the time you feel as if you are the only one and that no one is there for you. The reality is there are always people who will help you. When I was bullied I thought that I had it worse than everyone else does. Now I have grown up and matured a bit, I realise that people have it worse than me and lots of people are going through the same thing as me.

My Advice 

1. Tell Someone – If you are being bullied and you feel like you need help or want it to stop, honestly just tell someone. Whether it be your family, teacher, friend or someone else that you trust they will be able to help it stop.

2. Remember that you are not alone - Now at the time you might feel as if you are the only one. You must always remember that everyone goes through it, and the bullies themselves are either jealous, generally horrible people and just want someone to pick on or they have some insecurities themselves and they just want someone to take their anger out on.

3. Ignore it – I know you will have heard the a million times but in my personal experience just ignore it do not retaliate just let it brush past and you will be the bigger person for it.

4. It will end – If the bullying keeps going on then it is not the end because eventually they will get bored and move on and in my experience whether it be in a few weeks, months or even years you will resolve your differences and might even be friends.

My Experience

Now I’m not going to lie I have had quite a hard time with bullying in the past. At primary school I used to get called names because I was a bit of a ‘tomboy’ and was a bit silly. This wasn’t really bullying as such but I think because I got involved in things that were not my business it antagonised the bullies and gave them something to talk about.

My worst experience was probably when I was around 11-12 so quite recently. Literally around 2 years ago now I had maybe 1 friend. This was mostly due to the fact that I was and still am a bit of a ‘geek’ I went to school with a lot of people who were more interested in makeup and boys then school work whereas I was the complete opposite and did not agree with any of their ways. My life was awful and I was down and sad most of the time. I went to counselling sessions and I was told I had anxiety which gradually got worse over time. I still have anxiety now and it really gets to work when I worry about what people think of me.

But when I moved to Leamington a lot changed. I could be myself and still be happy I still worry about what people think of me but nowhere near as much as I did. Now I stand up for what I believe in and ignore what people say because now I am so happy and I don’t get bullied. I do get the odd comment here and there but it really doesn’t affect me. So in a way my bullying experience has allowed me to grow and become a stronger and happier person and I really agree with the saying “What doesn’t kill you makes you stronger”.

 

*This post is published as it was written by Lucie, I have not edited it or changed it in any way.  Lucie blogs at For the love of Lucie.*

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13 comments

    • Thank you Kim, I felt it would be good to allow Lucie to share as bullying is something that has happened to her recently.

  1. I don’t think that ignoring is a good way to deal with it.
    Bullying is a big problem for some kids / teens and it should be pointed out every time it is happening otherwise it will never stop.

    • Thank you for your comment, Lucie obviously feels that ignoring comments helps her to deal with bullying. As a parent I would prefer to be made aware of any problems from the onset but children don’t always like to tell us straight away. I’m sure Lucie will respond with her views once she returns from school this evening.

      • I know that it might be a quick solution and it might even work sometimes but most of the time it doesn’t.
        I am a foster mum and a lot of my kids are bullied only because they are fostered… we try to teach kids not to ignore it… never

  2. My daughter was bullied by both a teacher and another pupil at school a couple of years back. I begged and pleaded for the head to do something about it but he said he couldn’t. I think it just proved to me and many others that he’s a waste of space who just thinks he’s special because of his title.

    Lucie’s story has brought back a lot of the memories for me and it’s just awful to think that anyone is going through that. Well done Lucie for speaking out. And for having your own blog – it’s the perfect place to find a little bit of escapism :)

    Louise x

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    • I have heard similar stories about teachers bullying pupils and the school doing nothing about it which I find disgraceful, it should be a sackable offence. I’m so sorry to hear that your daughter endured this, it makes me really sad.

  3. i absolutely disapprove bullying. ive been bullied throughout primary and secondary school. every single taunt was racist. things gotten better when ive told someone and now if i get a racist remark, im not bothered now because all of the past has made me stronger

    • I’m so sorry to hear that you were a victim of bullying. I think more should be done in schools to stamp it out. No one should have to suffer at the hands of others.

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