Today I’m passing my blog over to my Daughter Lucie who as a teenager gets to see different forms of bullying between her peers everyday and is therefore more qualified to talk about this subject than I am.
If I am honest everyone will get bullied at least once in their life, and its something that we can all relate to. I myself have certainly been bullied in the past and it is an absolutely horrible experience to go through. But in a way it has made me a stronger person for it.
There are so many different types of bullying, but at the time you feel as if you are the only one and that no one is there for you. The reality is there are always people who will help you. When I was bullied I thought that I had it worse than everyone else does. Now I have grown up and matured a bit, I realise that people have it worse than me and lots of people are going through the same thing as me.
1. Tell Someone – If you are being bullied and you feel like you need help or want it to stop, honestly just tell someone. Whether it be your family, teacher, friend or someone else that you trust they will be able to help it stop.
2. Remember that you are not alone - Now at the time you might feel as if you are the only one. You must always remember that everyone goes through it, and the bullies themselves are either jealous, generally horrible people and just want someone to pick on or they have some insecurities themselves and they just want someone to take their anger out on.
3. Ignore it – I know you will have heard the a million times but in my personal experience just ignore it do not retaliate just let it brush past and you will be the bigger person for it.
4. It will end – If the bullying keeps going on then it is not the end because eventually they will get bored and move on and in my experience whether it be in a few weeks, months or even years you will resolve your differences and might even be friends.
Now I’m not going to lie I have had quite a hard time with bullying in the past. At primary school I used to get called names because I was a bit of a ‘tomboy’ and was a bit silly. This wasn’t really bullying as such but I think because I got involved in things that were not my business it antagonised the bullies and gave them something to talk about.
My worst experience was probably when I was around 11-12 so quite recently. Literally around 2 years ago now I had maybe 1 friend. This was mostly due to the fact that I was and still am a bit of a ‘geek’ I went to school with a lot of people who were more interested in makeup and boys then school work whereas I was the complete opposite and did not agree with any of their ways. My life was awful and I was down and sad most of the time. I went to counselling sessions and I was told I had anxiety which gradually got worse over time. I still have anxiety now and it really gets to work when I worry about what people think of me.
But when I moved to Leamington a lot changed. I could be myself and still be happy I still worry about what people think of me but nowhere near as much as I did. Now I stand up for what I believe in and ignore what people say because now I am so happy and I don’t get bullied. I do get the odd comment here and there but it really doesn’t affect me. So in a way my bullying experience has allowed me to grow and become a stronger and happier person and I really agree with the saying “What doesn’t kill you makes you stronger”.
*This post is published as it was written by Lucie, I have not edited it or changed it in any way. Lucie blogs at For the love of Lucie.*